“Friend” defined by Webster has several definitions: a favored companion, one attached to another by affection or esteem, acquaintance, or one of the same group.
My high school football coach used the term “Crony.”
Most of us have that one person you can relate to because of similar backgrounds or common beliefs. These people have characteristics that attract us to them. It could be that they are fun to be around, they are a good listener, they are trustworthy or they are always there for you in a pinch.
I can remember childhood friends that great memories were shared with. Waking up to a foot of snow in South Alabama and building snowmen and having snow ball fights was unforgettable. Playing pick up basketball games and whiffle ball games in the backyard was a daily afternoon routine.
At a young age, one of my best friends’ dad passed away in a helicopter accident. Their family was originally from Iowa and they were stationed at Fort Rucker at the time. They lived less than fifty yards away from the house I grew up in. I stayed at their house often and I was saddened by the news. A few weeks after the accident, I found out that they would be moving back to Iowa where his parents were from. It was like a scene from a movie, I watched as they pulled out of the driveway for the last time as tears rolled down my face.
At some point comes the awkward stage of the teenage years. During this time, some of those childhood friends would remain, but often times with differing interests many of those relationships faded away. Again in this time of my life many fond memories were made: bus rides to ball games, bleeding, sweating and crying on the battlefield of high school sports, and well let’s say a lot of other things that I’m glad camera phones weren’t around for.
Some of us went to college. Some went into the workforce, and after high school more of those friendships faded. It’s hard for young minds to understand that they spend so much time trying to make people like them or to have the most friends. Many people want to just be a part of something. When in reality those same people you are trying to impress will not be significant in your life in ten years.
The few true friendships that remain as an adult have endured it all. The heartache of a lost loved one, the birth of your children, the night when adversity strikes and they know just the right words, or when your child does something terrible but hilarious and you can’t wait to tell your best friend because you wondered fifteen years earlier what your kids would be like.
Hold tight to those people that are your friend because they love you with no strings attached. This may be a childhood friend who has lasted all of those disagreements, but still loves you unconditionally. This also could be a person that is some older than you, but more experienced(they will tell you what you need to know, not what you want to hear). This person may be someone you’ve only known a short time, but has never betrayed your trust and keeps your biggest secrets. Lastly, it’s that person that will help you transport your belongings every time you move, even if it is five times in the last four years.
Think of that special person in your life and be that kind of friend this week.